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  • Writer's pictureLaura Kae

It’s a People-Pleasing Nightmare

Today on my way to church, I had a random thought, “I really hate falling.” Then the random thought was followed by a random memory of me as a school girl on the playground, blood running down my legs because I had fallen, my cousins trying to get me to go find a teacher for help, and me insisting that I was fine. I did not need help. There was nothing wrong with me. I really did not see any reason for the other children’s concern. I remember the teacher coming out of the building and convincing me to come inside, so she could wash my wounds.

I guess I was all ready one bullheaded do-it-yourself’er back then. I still have scars and callouses on my knees. Those scars always ensure I wear tights when I wear a short skirt – need to cover them up you know.

I wonder if I still do not ask people for help when I need it or could use it? I have at least come to a point where I reach out to my friends and ask for prayer pretty quickly when I am having a tough day. I reach out to people for help on my writing now – character development, direction, etc. I have borrowed someone’s vehicle in the last six months. That counts. I have gone to the doctor after being sick only two days. I used to allow my cough to turn into pneumonia before I would drag myself in. I am growing!

I struggled a lot with people pleasing today. After publicizing my blog to non-Christian and Christian friends, I started to freak out over what people would think. And…let’s face it, there are a lot of things on this blog that my pride would love to have me keep a secret, eternally.

I finally stomped my foot, marched to my stack of scrap paper, grabbed a sharpie, scribbled “Don’t worship people who don’t worship God. Don’t worship people who do either” on it, taped it above my sink, and continued to wash my dishes. My day took a turn for the better.

If I do not quit worshiping people (people-pleasing) instead of worshiping God, it is going to take all the joy from my life. I am so tired of trying to make everyone happy.

Paul has something to say about this in my favorite book, Galatians 1:10 – Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.

I just read the chapter as I wrote this. I never realized this verse is right between Paul discussing false doctrines and the credibility of himself as an apostle, the doctrine he taught as truth and his relationship with Christ. I always just assumed he was talking about washing the dishes right or folding towels. Turns out he was talking about people’s opinions of what he believed. Nice. I will move on with my life now, knowing I am not alone in this battle.

Tomorrow when I fold towels while I am babysitting, I will do it in a way that pleases the people I am folding the towels for the most. Tomorrow as I believe in Jesus, I will do it in a way that pleases God the most. So help me, God!

So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. – I Corinthians 10:31


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